Mother's Day

May 09, 2023

Mother's Day is a time of the year that can be particularly difficult for some people. While this day is meant to celebrate and honor the love and sacrifice of moms everywhere, not everyone has a maternal figure in their lives, or a healthy relationship with the figure they do have. For those who have lost their mom or do not have a relationship with their mom, this holiday can bring up feelings of grief or pain. However, there are coping strategies and resources available to help make this day easier to manage.


It is important to acknowledge and accept the feelings that come up on Mother's Day. Whether it is sadness, anger or something else entirely, it is okay to feel what you feel. Repressing these emotions can lead to further complications and difficulties down the road. Instead, it can be helpful to express your feelings in a healthy way, either by talking about them with someone you trust or writing about them in a journal.


In addition, it can be helpful to shift your focus away from your loss, and towards something positive. This could mean volunteering your time or donating to a charity that supports mothers or women's issues. It could mean a day of self-care for you, or creating a new ritual to celebrate the day. Engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment, such as baking or spending time with loved ones, can also help to shift your mindset.


Resources are also available for those who may need additional support. Many therapists, counselors and support groups offer services specifically for individuals who have lost a parent or have a strained relationship with their mother. Online resources, such as grief and loss forums or chat groups, can also provide a sense of community and shared experiences.


Finally, it is important to remember that it is okay to opt-out of Mother's Day celebrations altogether, if that is what feels most comfortable. It can be helpful to communicate with loved ones about how you are feeling, and set boundaries around what you are and are not comfortable participating in.


While Mother's Day can be a difficult time for those who have lost a mom or do not have a relationship with their mother, know that you are not alone. There are coping strategies and resources available to help navigate these complex emotions. By acknowledging your feelings, seeking support and focusing on positivity, you can find ways to manage this holiday in a way that is healthy and healing for you.